An interesting class we had with Dr. Umeed today, on personality development and disorder.. One interesting story that he shared was about a one-year-old boy, in wanting to hug his mother, was hushed away for the mother did not want her crisply ironed dress to be crumpled.. I laughed and smirked at the absurdity of that situation and shook my head..But then i realised how common this situation is in our society!
cuba imagine a mother and a son sitting in the living room, waiting to go to a kenduri..the toddler then runs to his mother and hugs her with all his might, attempting to sit on the mother's lap..this is how the mother will react:
"ish apa panjat2 ni..tak reti dok diam la budak ni..dok elok2 tu..senget dah tudung mak..kedut baju nanti.."
sounds familiar? try to observe real hard and you can see this happenning..
issue 1:
i mean, come on..if a toddler does that, spare some forgiveness and shower more love..yes, kids need to be disciplined but with kindness and explanation..people tend to take short cuts by reprimanding kids for their inappropriate behaviour but neglect to explain the reason behind the reprimanding and forget to teach the appropriate one..
issue 2:
the image of a mother with a slightly senget tudung whilst hugging and 'wrestling' with her toddler appears very cool to me..and cute too! forget about the idea of being a vogue and va-va-voom mom when you have a couple of toddlers clinging onto you..what's there to looks at the cost of love and affection? it's HARD to maintain cun and be actively playing with your children at the same time..i think we should glamourise these moms who take an extra effort to be loving to their children by not being fussy about how they look..no, they do not have to be masam and melekit..but tudung a little bit senget? nothing to worry lah..
cuba imagine a mother and a son sitting in the living room, waiting to go to a kenduri..the toddler then runs to his mother and hugs her with all his might, attempting to sit on the mother's lap..this is how the mother will react:
"ish apa panjat2 ni..tak reti dok diam la budak ni..dok elok2 tu..senget dah tudung mak..kedut baju nanti.."
sounds familiar? try to observe real hard and you can see this happenning..
issue 1:
i mean, come on..if a toddler does that, spare some forgiveness and shower more love..yes, kids need to be disciplined but with kindness and explanation..people tend to take short cuts by reprimanding kids for their inappropriate behaviour but neglect to explain the reason behind the reprimanding and forget to teach the appropriate one..
issue 2:
the image of a mother with a slightly senget tudung whilst hugging and 'wrestling' with her toddler appears very cool to me..and cute too! forget about the idea of being a vogue and va-va-voom mom when you have a couple of toddlers clinging onto you..what's there to looks at the cost of love and affection? it's HARD to maintain cun and be actively playing with your children at the same time..i think we should glamourise these moms who take an extra effort to be loving to their children by not being fussy about how they look..no, they do not have to be masam and melekit..but tudung a little bit senget? nothing to worry lah..
hehe..i always busyuk masham..n i look like my children's maid instead looking like their mom..huhu
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